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Holidays Blessings

The holiday season and the year 2010 are descending upon us. For many of you who work in different organizational environments, this was a complex year. I’d like to close this blog’s year and open the new one with a favourite Irish blessing. I send this to you, wherever you are, from the bottom of my heart:

May the road rise to meet you,

May the wind be always at your back,

May the sun shine warm upon your face,

The rains fall soft upon your fields,

And until we meet again,

May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

If You’re Not Sure It’s Okay (2)

Last time I invited you to consider how you felt about including the following clause in an organization’s harassment policy:

“If you’re about to make a comment and you’re not sure whether it is unwelcome, ask if it’s okay.”

Well, here’s what I advised my client: remove this clause ASAP. All it does is allow people to engage in all kinds of offensive behaviours, as long as there’s no one around that is offended by them. In fact, creating a respectful workplace means that people refrain from offensive behaviours even if there is no `apparent victim’. That way, everyone can feel comfortable anytime, everywhere. And with Ontario’s upcoming Bill 168 Health and Safety legislation, it’s more important than ever to provide a psychologically safe workplace for all.

So instead, I suggested replacing the original problematic clause with:

“If you’re about to make a comment and you’re not sure whether it is unwelcome, refrain altogether from saying it”.

(Interestingly, one of you had graciously responded to the previous blog entry with the following comment: “I have always been taught to think before speaking. Make sure it is first of all true, then kind, then necessary. I find that this avoids a lot of problems”. Certainly something to ponder!)

If You’re Not Sure It’s Okay (1)

One of my organizational clients recently asked me to review a draft of their new and expanded harassment policy. In the part that discussed how each employee can contribute to the creation of a harassment-free workplace, one of the items that caught my eye read as follows:

“If you’re about to make a comment and you’re not sure whether it is unwelcome, ask if it’s okay.”

I invite you to ponder this clause for a moment: How do you feel about it? Does it fit with your own view on this matter? Would you recommend including such a clause in your own organization’s policy? If so, why? If not, why?

Stay tuned. In my next blog entry I’ll share my own thoughts on this clause!

How to Self-Sabotage (2)

In this short video, you’ll find additional tips for self-sabotage.

But wait, I have a challenge for you! I invite all my readers to consider your own actions or observations – – what have you seen others do, or had yourself done, that can be classified as ‘self sabotage at work’?

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How to Self-Sabotage (1)

If you want to ensure that at the next round of layoffs you are one of those to be laid off, or that you are passed on for the next promotion, this two part video series will provide you with tried-and-true methods for self-sabotage. All you have to do is follow the simple instructions and you can be sure that you’ll be exposing yourself to a host of unpredictable risks!

(Note: you can find an article version at www.sharonbardavid.com, under the ‘Resources’ section)

(If you’re having trouble viewing the video, click here.)

Strategies for Developing Your Personal Brand

Once you’ve gained clarity about what you want your personal brand to stand for, the three practical strategies provided in this short video will help you solidify it. So, what are you waiting for?

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Your Personal Brand – Gain Clarity

Regardless of where you are positioned in the organizational hierarchy, building a stellar “personal brand” is a must-have if you want to succeed in the workplace. In this two-part video you’ll learn strategies for creating your own personal brand and making it soar!

 

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The Urgency Addiction

September is here, and it’s time to prepare to defend against that big bad thief, the Urgency Addiction.

This term, coined by Stephen Covey, refers to the need of crazed, over-loaded western persons to have a constant gush of adrenaline run through our bodies. If the old lady standing in front of us at the supermarket’s cashier is too slow in getting her money out or her groceries packed, we get filled with murderous rage. After all, she’s an obstacle to our need to run, hurry, continue with our… what exactly? Where are we running, is there really a rush?  Is another minute at the cash going to kill us?

And if, heaven forbid, things slow down a bit, we feel out of sorts. Without the adrenaline and urgency, we feel lost.

Like any addiction, the Urgency Addiction too robs us of our sanity and vitality.

So now that September’s back again, with its flurry of activity and to-do’s, pull yourself out of the addiction and into recovery mode…. breath… slow down…. nothing is that important or that urgent…. count to ten…..  take one hour at a time….

I’m sure you get the idea. Good luck!

You’re in a Trap When…

Change is a tricky business. When it happens in the organization you work for, it can make you fall into all kinds of thinking errors that will limit your ability to deal with it effectively.

I call these `traps’, and following is a quick `n dirty list of trap-symptoms. You’ll know you’re in a “change trap” when:

  • For most of your work days, your body shows up to work, but YOU don’t
  • You’re afraid to tell your boss you have too much on your plate
  • You can’t remember the last time you laughed at work
  • You spend lots of time discussing the latest rumours with your friends by the water cooler
  • You’re rushing-rushing but can’t remember why
  • You have an anxiety attack whenever your boss asks you to “step into her office”
  • You don’t believe anything that the organization’s senior leaders say

Change traps are created by our mind. They are a story we tell ourselves about our reality, and they are damaging to us on every level.

So why not free yourself from the tyranny of self-torture?!

 

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Are HR Real Humans?

People love to hate HR.

This is especially true during organizational transitions – cutbacks, layoffs, and downsizing.

Several days ago, a fine HR professional working for a long-time client of mine, described what it’s like to be on the HR side of `the big divide’ during tough financial times.

People avoid her as though she were infected with a communicable disease.

She dreads the cafeteria, where she sees faces that she already knows will not be there for long.

People make funny remarks to her, except that nothing about those remarks is even remotely amusing.

She’s stressed and alone and contemplating leaving her job. Her sole refuge is with her HR colleagues, all of whom are going through similar experiences.

So, in the final analysis, are HR professionals actually human, like the rest us? You betcha!

Well then, here’s a thought: next time you encounter one of `those people’ at times of organizational crunches, consider this: the real breathing, living human beings that happen to have chosen HR as a profession – they too could use some support and a bit of camaraderie….

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